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Creating a Potent Personal World

Posted on March 27, 2018 in Giving Back

I wish peace for myself. I am motivated by a desire to make my world a better place. If I am motivated by love, rather than by resentment, bitterness, feelings of betrayal, doubt and self-loathing, then all this baggage, all the negative beliefs I’ve dragged around with me most of my life will simply… fall away.

I must check what my motivation is before every decision I make. Before I make a decision, I need to stop myself and ask, with complete honesty, what is truly driving me? Why am I going to do what I am about to do? If, after realizing that complete honesty is required, my answer is that I am being motivated by resentment or vindictiveness, fear or doubt, betrayal, or by any number of other little pieces of garbage I’ve been carrying around with me most of my life, and I am not being motivated by a desire to make my community, my world, a better place, then I need to stop myself from making that decision, regroup and purposefully redefine what is I seek.

So then, peace, for me, comes from being motivated by making my community, my world, a better place. How do I accomplish this? How do I go about making my world a better place? Firstly, I need to define the boundaries of what I call “my world” or “my community”. My personal world, at this moment includes the computer that I am writing this on, my office, and my apartment. I am alone here when I write. So how can I make this personal world a better place? I can organize this space more effectively. I can ensure that what I need is within reach and I can reduce the amount of interference that might prevent me from achieving this day’s goals. I can turn my cell phone off. I can close my email program. I can eat a healthy breakfast and limit my coffee intake to two cups. I can stretch and exercise for a few minutes before beginning my daily activities. I can put myself into a positive mind-set through affirmations and meditation. I can practice a sense of gratitude and thank the universe for providing me with the opportunity to continually realize my potential. I have power here in my personal world. I operate from a position of power. I am powerful.

As I expand out into the larger community, I can affect this same world-view on a larger scale. I can maintain a positive attitude and hopefully infect others with this same approach to life. I can compliment the check-out lady on her efficiency. I can let my neighbor know how much I appreciate the work he puts into making his yard look outstanding. I can help someone new to the area find the location they are searching for. I can smile and say thank you. I can offer a “have a great day” to a stranger. This may seem antiquated or idealistic to some, but I believe, I know, through personal experience that it works to make the world a better place; even a world as it is today, a world of self-absorbed individuals who would rather wear ear buds on the light-rail than engage in conversation with a stranger. I get it; the world we live in today seems much scarier than the one I was raised in. Conversing with a stranger has plenty of potential pit-falls. Who knows who the person sitting across from you is? But living a life in fear is no way to live. Risk often results in reward.

Am I being motivated by fear? Am I being motivated by resentment? Greed? Betrayal? Regret? Why do I do the things I do? This question must inform each decision I make. If I am motivated by love than the decision can be counted on as a good decision. If I am motivated by kindness, compassion, mercy, or an attitude of abundance then my decision can be relied on to lead me in the direction of my goal – to realize my life’s fullest potential.